Well we often discuss about what
makes us happy! But have you ever thought what exactly happiness is? Yes
Happiness as they say is a state of mind where you are contented from within,
you believe you are on the top of the world, you see everyone and
everything with a positive view, you know
that things are absolutely under your control, the way you desire it. You wish
to keep this moment standstill, retain it under your palms. The meaning of happiness
actually differs for different people, the simple reason being everyone is not
alike. What matters to you may not matter to me and vice versa! Yeah howsoever
weird it may sound but that’s a fact.
For a one year old toddler
happiness is seeing mom, for a 3 year old happiness is savouring a chocolate
bar, for a five year old it’s having fun with other kids, for a 7 year old its
visit to amusement park, for a ten year old happiness is surfing the net and
playing online games, for a fifteen year old its hanging out with friends. As
the kid grows up and moves to a college again the definition for happiness
changes then its making new friends, enjoying chatting with them, following the
latest fashion trends, being mischievous and pulling each other’s leg.
After one is done with the
education, then comes the next target of acquiring a good lucrative job. When
one achieves the dream job it’s yet another milestone reached and a reason for
triumph. Then comes the next phase in life, marital bliss. This is the
beautiful phase wherein you want to share your life with someone you love, with
someone whom you connect and are compatible with. After marriage kids follow
which bring joy, love and teach one the meaning of unbiased and unconditional
love! We once again become kids in the company of our own kids.. What an
eternal feeling it is.
But in all this have you ever
noticed that we are constantly worrying and doubting ourselves if as to whether
we will be in a position to accomplish our dreams? We know what we want, we
know how to achieve it then why does the fear keep lurking us. One has to learn
to be confident and have complete self –faith in the journey called life where
you are always on your toes to reach your destination. With hard work
accompanied with sincerity one has to hold a strong determination in the mind.
In our gist of achieving the bigger milestone we often forget the small joys
that life has to offer. For example, when we are working hard towards cracking
an exam while we are constantly focussing on the end result we conveniently
ignore the internal exam results where we would have excelled our past records.
Why can’t we celebrate this mid-term results? This celebration can push us
forward to achieve a higher goal. Likewise we can easily disintegrate our
ultimate milestone into smaller ones, celebrate whenever we have achieved
satisfactorily. We should basically try to celebrate our journey towards
success rather than merely celebrating the end result. Have a close look at the
baby who has just started walking on its own. It doesn’t learn to walk
overnight, it first learns to crawl then sit, then takes support of something
to stand and finally gains balance and confidence to stand on its own feet
without any support. Every time the kid learns a new thing it has a sense of
contentment and is overjoyed by its own effort, as adults we are so lost in our
maturity that we have forgotten to celebrate small joys in our life.
Who doesn’t want to be successful
in life? However people have actually started determining their source of
happiness with the success you achieve. Success can be one of the reasons for
our happiness but don’t let it be the only reason. Life is full of diversity,
if you are not an expert in one thing you can always opt for something else
that interests you rather than sulking over the spilled milk.
Detoxification of your system from
within is necessary, expunge all the negative traits like jealousy, envy, fear
and guilt. These negative things go a long way to hamper your growth as a
person and ultimately affect your happy space.
Staying in the company of
positive people is important for they are the one that always encourage you and
cheer you come what may! They are the driving force of life, they make you feel
important and spread an aura of optimism.
Be exuberant and have zeal for life!Stop worrying over trivial
things, soak in the happiness and celebrate life!
